I remember growing up and not seeing much of my dad.
He was there—don’t get me wrong—but he was more like a shadow that popped up once in a while, rather than someone I could lean on.
And let me tell you, as a dad myself now, I see exactly how much that absence shaped me.
It’s funny how people say, “Oh, as long as the mom’s there, the kids are fine.”
Sure, moms are amazing (seriously, they are superheroes), but having a dad around adds something special.
Even the small moments matter—picking them up from school, sitting in the bleachers at a soccer game, or just being around.
Kids notice those moments, and they stay with them forever.
I came across a story online that really hit home about the importance of father figures in kids’ lives. Here’s what one dad shared:
“I went to my kiddo’s school to read books with her this afternoon. I (correctly) assumed she would be excited that I was there.
What I did not expect was that nearly every classmate of hers was excited I was there, too.
They huddled around me and insisted on hugs, to sit next to me, to hold my hand, sit on my lap, tell me about their dogs/baby siblings, etc.
A child psychologist I am not. But, I’m convinced that there are many children who are starving for present father figures.
Dads, let’s be more present for, not only our children, but children in general. I promise you won’t regret it.”
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The Power of Showing Up
Let me put this out there: dads, you are the role models.
Whether you think so or not, your kids are always watching. How you treat people, how you handle stress, how you celebrate wins—they’re soaking it all up.
And it’s not just your own kids. Have you ever noticed how kids flock to you when you’re at a school event or a park?
That’s because some of them don’t have that kind of father figure in their lives.
Being present isn’t just about your family; it’s about being a positive influence for the little ones who might be missing out.
For Dads Who Work Long Hours
Now, let’s talk about the elephant in the room: work. Long hours, early mornings, late nights, being halfway across the world—it’s tough.
You can’t always be there physically, but you can always make an impact.
Here’s what I think will work, you can focus on quality over quantity.
Even if you only have 20 minutes at the end of a long day, make those minutes count.
Put the phone down, sit with your kid, and really listen to what they’re saying (even if it’s about Minecraft or the same story you heard yesterday).
And hey, giving them a quick video call during your break can mean the world to your kid.
Or leave little notes around the house when you know you’ll be gone—on the fridge, their pillow, or even the bathroom mirror.
Lastly, get creative.
Share what you do at work—kids love to know about “grown-up stuff.” Or, make weekends your sacred family time.
It’s all about showing them that they’re a priority, even when life gets busy.
Simple Ways to Be Present
Going to a school play, showing up for a soccer game, or volunteering to read a story at their class can make your child feel like a superstar.
At home, it’s even simpler.
Play a quick board game, lend a hand with homework, or tuck them in at night with a story or a hug.
I’ve scrolled through countless posts online where people reminisce about their dads, and do you know what stands out?
It’s never the dad who was too busy running a billion-dollar empire.
It’s the one who helped with math problems, drove them to school, or spent Saturday mornings fishing.
And I guess by now, you know it’s not about being flashy; it’s about being consistent.
Those small, regular moments build a foundation of connection and trust.
They’re what your kids will hold onto when they’re grown—proof that you were there, and you cared.
A Note for Dads
Here’s my challenge for you: show up. Whatever that looks like for you, do it.
Whether it’s squeezing in a school event, having dinner as a family, or just sitting on the couch and watching their favorite show (even if it’s 30 minutes of animated chaos).
Being a dad isn’t about being perfect—it’s about being present. A dad’s best ability is availability.
So, make the effort. I promise it’s worth it.